For anyone who reads this and has the issue I had, I will summarize what I think fixed it.
Enable thunar-volman
In terminal: sudo nano /etc/skel/.config/xfce4/xfconf/xfce-perchannel-xml/thunar.xml
Line 15 <property name"misc-volume-management" type=“bool” value=“false”/>
Change from false to true
If still doesnt work try other things in the thread or: